September 16, 2009
EMOTIONAL UPS AND DOWNS DURING PERIMENOPAUSE
So far I have spoken about many physical aspects of Perimenopause. I now want to mention the emotional or mental aspects of Perimenopause.
Perimenopause is a phase of life where changes occur on a physical, emotional, spiritual and mental level. Could this be part of a mid-life crisis? I hate to consider this age mid-life and I don’t even like talking about it in that way. But people tend to when they don’t know how else to explain it.
In our 40’s and even later 30’s we look at our life and begin to analyze it.
Are we where we thought we would be at this time?
Emotional things that we may have been suppressed or avoided begin to surface. Life may be telling us that it is time to work through these issues. It is time to get to know who we really are; to become our authentic self.
Many women lose the sense of who they really are. We are busy taking care of our family and tend to put ourself last because that is what our mother did, our grandmother did, etc. Especially if we have had to work full time while raising kids and staying married. Yikes! That takes so much energy!!
Many women during Perimenopause are not sure how to deal with this and feel overwhelmed. Anti-depressants may seem like the only answer or a good one at the time. I want you to know that there are many things that you can do and a few resources are listed below.
I have been going through this since my early 30’s. It never really ends…but it gets better.
I found a few resources and have listed them below. They have really helped. They focus on releasing emotions, releasing blocks, not dwelling on them. No psycho-therapy here.
Byron Katie and “The Work”
Who are you without your story? She was once severely depressed. She developed questions and a technique that pulled her out of it.
www.thework.com
The Sedona Method
A technique, which at first, seems a little odd and may leave you wondering “How can this work?” It took me a while to really believe in this. I find it is really good to combine The Work and the Sedona Method.
www.sedona.com
“Excuses Begone!” by Dr Wayne Dyer
He is my self-help guru. I absolutely love him!!!
His new book is “Excuses Begone!” and I loved the way he explains it. He borrows “The Work” also a bit in his teachings but Excuses Begone is really good.
www.drwaynedyer.com
LOOK AT THE WEB SITES – “The Work” has worksheets and gives tons of information. There is a lot of free stuff you can get to start now.
A BOOK YOU CAN RELATE TO:
A FABULOUS BOOK that is called “How Did I Get Here” by Barbara De Angelis is SO FANTASTIC!! At least it was DEAD ON for me. It expressed EXACTLY what I was feeling and going through. It is an older book but I’m sure you can still buy it online or try a used book store (that is where I got it).
Go into Chapters or your nearest book store and look through these books. You may be able to find them at a used book store for cheap. Everyone is different and what works for one, may not work for another. I hope you find value in these resources.
Let me know. Please comment on what works for you, what have you tried? What books, resources do you love?
